What to do if a loved one resists help?
Unfortunately, using logic doesn’t work in most cases. Sometimes family must stress that the help is for them and their peace of mind, giving them the assurance that the loved one is eating, staying clean, getting exercise and interacting with others. In reality, it’s another set of eyes and ears on the situation to help guide the decision maker about the tough decisions. Sometimes it becomes necessary to bargain/negotiate, “you want to stay at home for as long as possible, right?”
“Well, the only way that can happen is for you to agree to have some help.” Don’t say it, if you don’t mean it, and be willing to follow through on whatever transpires.
In order to find just the right fit, a family may need to try different approaches to service, i.e. short/long days/hrs./male/female caregivers. Also, engage the loved one in designing the scope of service, as well as the Plan of Care (what exactly needs to be done). The Nurse Assessor will compare/contrast the Plan of Care and Service Plan to the Loved One’s ADLs (Activities of Daily Living) and abilities. All of these together should help to determine a positive experience and outcome.